Hi friends,
Thoughts. So many thoughts.
I have a lot of things going through my brain right now, but let's focus on one thing: how we talk to friends.
I hear so many people refer to their friend group as "my main b******." Or "those mofos."
And I just want to ask one question-- why?
Why would you refer to your friends with a derogatory term? And friends, why would you want to be refereed to as said term?
I find it incredibly degrading when I hear someone calling their best friend their "main hoe," or anything of the like. My best friends are people that I care about, people that I love and want to spend time with. People that I have built a friendship with. And that friendship is something that I value a lot. I would NEVER call them something that is known to be used in "cat fights" with those you dislike. My friends should never be called names that are synonymous with those whom I don't like (I don't normally refer to those I don't like with those terms let alone my best friends).
Why? Just why has this become a fad? And more importantly why did it stick?
Your friends are those who are there for you. Those who will wade into the deep for you. Those who run towards the fire while everyone else runs away. They are other human beings that crossed your path and stuck around for a little while. They are the ones that you offer your favorite food to. The ones who can call you at any time of the night. The ones who know that the only word that should be spoken to you in the morning is "coffee."
They are NOT your b*tches. They are NOT you hoes. They are NOT mofos.
All of those words are and should be offensive (I'm not lecturing you on not swearing, that is a whole different conversation in itself). I am saying that we need to respect our friends.
I hear mostly women say those things to other women. And let me ask you this-- when did it become okay to call each other that, when we have fought so hard so that men did not call us that? We are essentially reverting to when it was okay to call women those derogatory names. And why? Don't you know the definitions of those words? And if you do, are your friends that way? I didn't think so...
So my question to you is why?
Why are we calling our wonderful friends who are loved and cared about those names? And why do we accept being called those names?
Why?
Just offering you some food for thought.
Xoxox
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ReplyDeleteHello Sadie. I do not know whether I have connected you earlier but this gives me an opportunity to get connected with you. I am a Pastor from Mumbai, India and love getting connected with the people of God around the world to be encouraged, strengthen and praying for one another. I am blessed and feel privileged and honored to get connected with you because of who you are in the Lord Jesus Christ. I have been in the Pastoral ministry for last 36 yrs in the great city of Mumbai a city with a great contrast where richest of rich and the poorest of poor live. We reach out to the poorest of poor with the love of Christ to bring healing to the broken hearted. We also encourage young and the adults from the west to come to Mumbai to work with us during their vacation time. We would love to have you come with your friends to work with us during your vacation time. I am sure you will have a life changing experience. My email id is: dhwankhede(at)gmail(dot)com and my name is Diwakr Wankhede. Looking forward to hear from you very soon. God's richest blessings on you, your family and friends. Wishing you a very blessed and a Christ centered New year.
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